Many of you mothers know that everyday life is both wonderful, demanding, scary and stressful all at the same time.
Life can be full of a mess in the form of sticky hands, spilled milk, stains and loads of laundry.
There’s always a new pile of laundry or new stain waiting just when you think you finally have everything is done, which can be very frustrating.
Every now and again it’s only natural for us to feel like we are running out of patience.
Heather Duckworth knows all this as much as any other mother, she also has a crucial reminder for mothers which everyone needs to see.
Sadly, it was an unimaginable incident that led to her insight into this.
Heather Duckworth, stands out although she is similar to other moms in many ways.
A few years ago she lost her young son and has been working hard ever since to share her important message with all parents.
“The Blue Stain” is a story Heather has shared on Facebook once you read you will quickly comprehend why it is pulling at so many people’s heartstrings.
Everything became obvious to Heather when she was picking up some slime off the floor that her daughter had dropped.
Despite her daughter having one her best to clean up the stain left by the slime, Heather naturally had to assist.
She muttered words under her breath, annoyed by the situation as any parent would and suddenly remembered a different stain…
A stain present 14 years prior when she didn’t have her daughter yet, Heather had two-year-old triplets as well as a four-year-old little boy.
On this particular evening, with four young children in the house was struggling to get her 4 active boys into bed life chaotic.
Most of her time was spent chasing her kids, “My hands were full, but so was my heart.”
As night drew near that evening, she recalls the struggle of feeding and bathing all four boys, while cleaning up after the usual mess.
The children full of energy had music blasting and ran around singing and dancing.
But that would be the last time this kind of atmosphere would prevail in the house.
Amidst the chaos, while trying to get the boys in bed, she saw a large ink blue stain as she looked down at the carpet.
Jacob, one of the triplets stood nearby with a broken pen in his hand, it was also all over his body, pjs and the carpet.
Once she saw this Heather lost her patience.
She said, “I instantly felt so upset as I grabbed my son and took him to the bathroom to clean him up and my husband started scrubbing those bright blue stains on our carpet. Tears of frustration stung my eyes. I was just so tired. And mad. Like really, really angry. I wasn’t mad at my son – who was as blue as a Smurf – but upset with myself for leaving that pen out where my toddler could reach it.”
“We had only lived in this house for six months and now the carpet was completely ruined. We scrubbed that stain for an hour that night, but yet it remained,” she added.
Heather and her husband hired professional cleaners but to no avail, as the stain continued to get on her nerves and annoyed her.
“It made me feel angry and it made me feel like such a failure for leaving out the pen where my young son could reach it. That blue stain was just a big fat negative in my life. I hated it,” Heather says.
But in a life-changing moment her frustration over the stain suddenly all went away.
Little Jacob was soon diagnosed with cancer, two years following the heart-shattering news, he was gone.
The blue stain remained, as the little boy went to heaven.
“It was still there . . . and now . . . it was a constant reminder of my son. It was a constant reminder of my frustration over something so trivial . . . something so unimportant in the scheme of life.”
Heather wants mothers to realize that young children will of course always make a mess, it can be incredibly frustrating as parent faces new trials and challenges.
The blue stain is a contact reminder for Heather, that life with children can be messy but worth living.
It’s also a reminder not to sweat the small stuff that “things” are not so important as people are.
Accidents happen so let go of all the little things and focus on what really matters the most.
Heather admits that she would live with a million blue ink stains, if it meant she could have a single day more with her son and feels the mess a “blessing in disguise.”
She continues to clean, wash and scrub away after her children — but as she does so, it’s a constant reminder of the time she spent in the hospital with her little boy.
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