If you have ever shared a house with a another person, you will undoubtedly have at one stage fought about who is pulling their weight around the house. Especially if you have kids, you will more than likely have had an argument with your partner on who’s turn it is to clean up the mess. One blogger has recently perfectly portrayed exactly what it feels like when you are the person who feel like they are doing everything in the house.
Australian blogger, Constance Hall, who is a mother to four children and soon to be five, posted her emotional rant to Facebook about what it is like to have to do everything around the house. It is quiet frankly a rant that every mom can relate to, as they more often than not have to carry the load, both mentally and physically in the household.
Hall describes how she was complaining to friends about the fact that she had to do everything around the place, when one of her friends told her if she wanted help to “‘be specific… ask for it. People need lists, they aren’t mind readers.’”
So she did exactly that.
“‘Can you take the bin out? Can you get up with the kids? I’m just a little tired after doing it on my own for 329 years. Can you go to woolies? I’ve done 3 loads of washing and made breaky, lunch, picked up all the kids school books, dealt with the floating shit in the pond,’” she writes.
She said shit did get done but that it was exhausting to trying to keep up with it all, constantly reminding her partner what needed to be done, so she stopped. And it doesn’t take a crystal ball to figure out what happened next.
“NOTHING,” she writes. “Again.”
Frustrated, Hall continues, “And so I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not your job to ask for help, it’s not my job to write fucking lists.. We have enough god dam jobs and teaching someone how to consider me and my ridiculous work load is not one of them.”
This is quiet often a regular occurrence in a lot of households. Many women spend year after year asking for help and never receive an ounce of help. Most have even tried leaving certain chores go undone in the hope that it will get the message across. Leaving the laundry pile up, not emptying the dishwasher or not putting out the rubbish? But the laundry pile remains the same, the dishes are left in the washer and the rubbish begins to stink up the house.
Hall goes on to say, “Just think about each other, what it takes to run the god dam house. Is one of you carrying the weight? Because when the nagging stops, when the asking dies down, when there are no more lists. All your [sic] left with is silent resentment. And that my friends is relationship cancer.”
“It’s not up to anyone else to teach you consideration. That’s your job,” she concludes. And it really isn’t. If you see someone busting their ass, get up off yours and do something. Help out. It’s not that tough. “Just do the fucking dishes without being asked once in a while mother fuckers,” Hall writes.
Fair play to her.
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